Dr. Andrea Liner
Why are Breakups Seen as a Bad Thing?
We as a society seem to have labelled breakups as a sort of failure or shortcoming...
BUT they are quite the opposite!
"Aww, it's okay, you'll find someone else..."
How many times have you heard that after a breakup instead of something like...
"I am so proud of you for doing what's best for you!"?
Breakups are usually looked at as failures. We feel the need to look like we have it all "together" and admitting that you are no longer in a relationship can feel as though it's seen as some sort of failure or shortcoming.
Ending a relationship or being broken up with isn't a failure.
There is nothing wrong with you.
You're not behind.
You're not "not together."
You are strong and by ending your relationship you are opening up opportunities for yourself to find a relationship that will better serve you- that is, if you even want a new relationship.
In my book, it's more successful to leave a relationship that is no longer serving you than to stay.
As I alway say...
Better an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend than an ex-husband/ex-wife!
Do you view breakups as a sign of failure OR as a sign of success?