• Dr. Andrea Liner

Imagine How Much You Can Love the RIGHT Person



"If you can love the wrong person so much, imagine how much you can love the right one."


Would it surprise you to hear that one of my hardest breakups was actually the most amicable?  


We loved each other, had a blast, but simply didn’t want the same future. It was mutual and no one actually did anything “wrong.”  


There was no cheating, no betrayal, no falling out of love. Rather, just realizing you’ve reached a fork in the road and that you’re not the right people for each other long term.  


On our first date, this ex told me in no uncertain terms that he never wanted kids and wanted to have a nomadic travel lifestyle. But I had just done the serious long term relationship and wanted to have some fun.  


This relationship had always had an expiration date.  


Without a reason to be angry and without negative or toxic qualities to focus on, the healing process actually felt more difficult.  


These kinds of breakups don’t hurt any less but they require a slightly different methodology to get over them.  


If you’re struggling to get over one these relationships (and maybe even beating yourself up because it seems like it should be easier!), know that you’re not alone.